Thursday 11.19.15

Party: Metropolitan’s Lucky 13 Anniversary Bash

I guess it’s all about Metro this week in GAYLETTER. I’m OK with that. I haven’t been there in forever, so it deserves some love. Besides it’s their 13th anniversary. Congrats on staying sleazy and sexy for so long. I’ve spent many fun nights at your stinky bar. So here’s what’s happening. At 8:00pm “Horgy Thor & Alotta McGriddles will be starting off the night with Alotta Stuff!!! Live Auction where you can score some amazing clothing and accessories with most bids starting at $1.” Then at 11pm the Lucky 13 Anniversary Bash starts. Music is by DJ’s Frankie Sharp & Nita Aviance with performances by Thorgy Thor & Alotta Mcgriddles. The night is hosted by Untitled Queen, Charlene, Elizabeth James, & Lady Havokk. Also worth mentioning is that they are planning to transform the space for the night. Any bets that means they’ll hang some gold streamers from the walls and hand out glow sticks. I kid, I’m sure it’ll be fucking glorious, and the best night of your whole goddamn life!

Free, 10:00 PM, Metropolitan Bar, 559 Lorimer St. Brooklyn, NY.


Wednesday 11.18.15

George Platt Llynes: A Life in Portraits By Allen Ellenzweig


Before Robert Mapplethorpe there was George Platt Lynes. Born in East Orange, New Jersey Lynes quickly became recognized as one of the most revolutionary photographers of the early 20th century. Despite contributing to renown publications such as Vogue and Bazaar, he is primarily known for his photographs of male nudes.  Characterized by their homoerotic quality and formal beauty, these photographs are truly stunning and captivating.


Lucky for you the The Leslie-Lohman Museum of Gay and Lesbian Art will be hosting an event tonight, November 18, celebrating Lynes’ work. Allen Ellenzweig, author of The Homoerotic Photograph, will be leading a presentation about the incredible life and times of George Platt Lynes. You will get a chance to see several of the amazing photographs taken by the artist, including his images for the New York City Ballet and his Surrealism inspired images, while also listening to a brilliant commentary about the artist’s work as a whole.


FREE, 6:00PM-8:00PM, Leslie-Lohman Museum of Gay and Lesbian Art, 26 Wooster St. NY, NY.




I probably should know what the Glammys are, but I don’t! Never heard of them. Turns out they are a both the Glamour Magazine Beauty Products Awards as well as The 17th Annual Glam Awards hosted by Bianca Del Rio (pictured), celebrating “the best of NYC Nightlife.” I’m assuming this event, which is the unofficial after-party for the awards, is tied to the latter. It’s all happening at Metropolitan Bar. “Spread sprinkles with us as we give shows and a special DJ set by Big Dipper!!!” There’s also a “Dance off Pants Off” contest with a first prize of $50 and 2nd prize of $20 bar tab. I guess the Glammys people aren’t interested in being featured in GAYLETTER as we’ve never received an invite to the event. Weird. Maybe Abi or I unknowingly pissed of one of the organizers (bad sexual encounter, we didn’t let them into one of our parties…) who knows. I love Bianca Del Rio so would show up for her, but honestly I’d rather save the $20 it costs for a ticket and just go to the after-party. That’s where the real action happens!

FREE, 10:00PM, Metropolitan Bar, 559 Lorimer St. Brooklyn, NY.


Tuesday 11.17.15



I’m back on my back.


If you read my last review you understand that the Lelo experience begins far before you slowly work your toy inside yourself. Today we’re getting to know LOKI. Like HUGO, his box is similarly lux: textured, embossed, and neatly organized. Loki is simple, 6 inches of velvety silicone curving forward to hum, buzz and frenzy on and around your prostate. Or rather, My prostate. Yes, once again, I’m writing with Loki inside me. 


To be perfectly honest, it took a second to slip him in — he’s girthy and doesn’t have the same give as the shaft I’m used to. But since passing my gentle point of departure, things are steadily increasing. I’d suggest taking your time. This thing has so many settings I’m not sure if I can keep track. His range of vibration is on point — the lowest setting allowing me to rock gently back and fourth, the highest clenching me firmly around his base. I’m hovering slightly above medium and ready to type with one hand.


He starts in a familiar place, vibrating steadily to the rhythm of my thrust. I wouldn’t say I’m riding him, but rather massaging myself — exploring in and around more than in and out. Working my way through the first four settings, I’m not too surprised at what I’ve found: A high-frequency vibration switches between constant humming, short bursts, and mounting intensity with a bump at every peak. I can feel my teeth grit as I’m trying to split my concentration between word choice and the rotation of my wrist. …

Sunday 11.15.15

Event: Queer Brooklyn Clothing Swap

Some friends of mine tried to have a pre-fall party way before the Fall season came, but after all the planning and talking about it, we never really got to it. Maybe for the next season… This brings me to this event that Tom pointed out to me, Queer Brooklyn Clothing Swap. A clothing swap! Perfect! I am gonna be honest with you I don’t know the people behind this event, but it says queer and we are in the same city. According to their Facebook page the folks organizing this have “a lot of clothing we don’t wear anymore. We think there might be other folks in this same predicament. How about we swap clothing?” Yeah exactly, that’s a great idea. Here’s  how it works, “free entry with (clean) clothes to swap or a light refreshment (we will never say no to food). $5 suggested donation otherwise. No one turned away for lack of funds. All leftover clothing will be donated to an LGBTQ organization (any recommendations are welcomed!).”  Basically if you can’t find things to swap it’s a great way for you to donate your clothes to a LGBT organization. This event is at someone’s home, so it’s gonna feel a bit weird at first, but then once you say hello and swap some clothes, drink some alcohol and eat some snacks I think it should be just fine. These people seem chill.


Friday 11.13.15

Event: Revolting Grace and Execution

We’ve heard from a couple of people that this party is bananas. We like parties that are bananas — they’re the ones people will be talking about when we’re old. This Friday is your chance to get bananas with the latest edition of Grace and Execution. This monthly party is dedicated “to showcasing Queer performance and dance based work.” The event provides “a platform for artists to examine queerness by exploring themes of gender, sexuality, androgyny, and the politics that surround them.” You can expect “performance/movement based work by: Olga Dobrowolska, Tyler Ashley, Elayna Lopez, Gage Of The Boone, Shawn Escarciga (MISS LADY SALAD) and Leah Marie Beltran.” Bring a good attitude and leave your privilege at home (I’ve always wanted to say that, lol), Have Fun!

$5-$20 SLIDING SCALE, 8:00 PM, The Spectrum, 59 Melrose Ave Brooklyn, NY .


Thursday 11.12.15

FAKA’s From A Distance

The Latest From The South African Performance Duo


The purpose of any medium is to provide agency for a larger idea. In this technologic age, video and sound are (maybe) the most popular agents to further illustrate an artist’s vision. FAKA is the brainchild of South African performance artists Thato Ramaisa (Fela Gucci) and Buyani Duma (Desire Marea). This week, they’ve shared a new music video titled From A Distance, which is an ode to Brenda Fassie’s fierce rendition of Bette Midler’s corny classic. Concentrating on the issues that surround the black queer body, FAKA says, “We wish to create a dialogue that transcends the bounds of queer activist rhetoric,” and in doing so, From A Distance serves as what they call a “Gqom-Gospel lamentation for dick,” and also what I am calling the next best thing.



“We regard this as an ongoing performance celebrating the third world aesthetics that often do not have the space to be validated on a large scale in contemporary creative culture. Even within the supposed progressive art world there is a classicism that excludes this demographic.”





The performance, which is presented on Youtube, is described as FAKA in their truest form. “Living our complex existence in ways that transcend all the artifacts we adorn, distancing with no restrain and no apology. We feel that there is an exclusion of a certain demographic of valid voices and expressions due to lack of resources, specifically Black/African voices who could strongly contribute to the progression of global culture.” FAKA says this video is their way of stepping into their place in the world, and so be it. …

Event: MIX NYC 2015

This is the 28th Mix NYC — a queer experimental film festival. If you haven’t been to any of the previous festivals then this is the year to atone for your sins. Tonight you have 3 options. First up is the documentary Peace of Mind which “documents the life of American artist, Flo McGarrell, prior to his untimely death in the earthquake that struck Haiti in January of 2010.” Following that is The Fight For Home which documents the struggles for minorities to claim a home and features “Fierce drag queens” battling the Google/Twitter/Yahoo tech buses of San Francisco plus Black and Asian communities coming together in the struggle for racial justice in the aftermath of the LA Riots, Rodney King’s beating, and Tian Sheng Yu’s death. Finally there’s The Hustle which the festival is giving little information about besides a gif of Marilyn Monroe strutting through a fancy restaurant and this quote attributed to Abraham Lincoln: “Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.I’m intrigued!

$13, 6:00PM, Mix Factory, 155 26th St. New York, NY.


Wednesday 11.11.15


The raid was really stoopid. Prostitution should be legalized. If someone wants to sell their affection, and body, it should be no one else’s business but their own, and in all seriousness, a site like Rentboy was a safe place for many of these workers to operate. “The raid is the latest front in a state-sponsored war to criminalize the survival of people in the sex trades. Rentboy offered a safer way to work, screen clients and create community, now it no longer exists pushing those that advertised on Rentboy onto other online platforms and the street.” This Wednesday get to the LGBT Center and start to “organize around the #RentboyRaid, police profiling and violence against people in the sex trades, and the Human Trafficking Intervention Courts, along with other issues of concern to people in the sex trades in New York City.” It’s an important cause, whether you work in the industry or not. Do it for Zola!

FREE, 6:00PM, The LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. NY, NY.


Tuesday 11.10.15

Haze Him! White Heteromasculinity, Anal Resiliency & the Erotic Spectacle of Repulsion

A lecture by Gender Studies Guru Jane Ward in NYC


Jane Ward’s book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men has been around the literary circuit since early August, and been featured in such trusted sources as New York Magazine, Huffington Post, and of course GAYLETTER. The book largely focuses on sexual acts between white, straight men and examines how these acts “allow them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality. By understanding their same-sex sexual practice as meaningless, accidental, or even necessary, straight white men can perform homosexual contact in heterosexual ways.” I’m sure you’re all dying to read it for obvious reasons. Who doesn’t like an educational analysis that also serves as soft core porn?

Tonight, November 10th, The Center for the Study of Gender and Sexuality at NYU presents Haze Him! White Heteromasculinity, Anal Resilience, and the Erotic Spectacle of Repulsion. The talk, by Ward, “examines the function and effects of homosexual contact in the hazing rituals of the United States military. Juxtaposing documented military hazing rituals with scenes of hazing in the widely popular series of “reality” internet porn,, Ward considers how male-male anal penetration has been framed as a practice of hetero-masculine resilience, one to be suffered with performative repulsion and endurance.”


It sounds like a fantastic lecture to sit in on, and I’m sure it will be jam-packed with every kind of person imaginable. Be sure to brush up on your politically correct lingo, and leave your privilege at the door.


FREE, November 10, 6:30PM, 19 West 4th St. …