Friday 06.17.16
Growing Up Coy
The documentary follows the nation's most public trans-children's rights debate
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Growing Up Coy is a new documentary that follows the Mathis family fighting for their transgender daughter’s right to use the girls’ bathroom. The film takes place when Coy is six but her parents have known she was uncomfortable with her assigned gender since she was as young as 18 months. When Coy was stopped from using the girls’ bathroom at school, her parents sprung into action and filed a complaint. In the hopes of educating people and putting a very cute face to the cause, Coy’s parents then chose to go public with the help of the Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund.
Directed by Eric Juhola and produced and edited by Jeremy Stulberg, the film is not always comfortable or easy to watch. It took a whole two minutes for me to tear up for the first time. As viewers, we see the hateful backlash thrown at both Coy and her parents, as well as the stress that this very public case puts on all members of the family. The movie also deals with the complicated matter of how to handle civil rights cases involving children. Is it okay to subject a six year old to public scrutiny in order to fight for her basic rights? Juhola does a fantastic job of putting the viewer in Coy’s shoes throughout the whole ordeal. We feel elated every time she’s able to play like a “normal” kid, and appropriately awkward as soon as she doesn’t want to do another interview with the press. …
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Tuesday 06.14.16
Poets 4 Orlando Imagine Central Park – June 14 in NYC
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My own personal mantra is: language does everything. It will heal, it will inspire, it can hurt, it can mold. Poet Claudia Rankine writes, “[S]omeone asked the philosopher Judith Butler what made language hurtful. I could feel everyone lean forward. Our very being exposes us to the address of another, she said. We suffer from the condition of being addressable, by which she meant, I believe, there is no avoiding the word-filled sticks and stones of others.” This addressability is at the center of each of us, and though we are so physically different, our ability to assess and feel language, which can delineate any space, is what helps, in times like these, spread empathy and compassion throughout communities. Words, be they spoken in French, Spanish, Creole, Mandarin or English, carry weight that must be respected. Our ability to understand language will never go away. Language in any form will always be able to bring people together in times of need. Words mean things.
Today, when the LGBTQIA+ community’s collective heart is tender to the touch, it’s essential that we come together as one; to remember, uplift, soothe, and above all else, love each other. Today in the lovely Sheep’s Meadow, poets from all over the world are coming together to bring the magic of a nightclub into their vigil space for our brothers and sisters lost in Orlando. Including some of our GAYLETTER friends, Erin Markey, Slava Mogutin, Justin Syre, Joseph Keckler, Geraldine Visco, Xena Stanislavovna Semjonová, Stephen Boyer and many more hope to share their words with you. …
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Monday 06.13.16
VIGIL IN FRONT OF STONEWALL INN
New York City gathers for the Orlando victims, June 13.
Anger is More Useful Than Despair: Vigil in Front of Stonewall Inn tonight
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At times like these it’s easy to lose hope. Yesterday’s attack was astounding in it’s brutality. However when I feel myself falling into despair I always remind myself of this stupid, yet insightful scene from Terminator 3 (bear with me). In this particular scene the Terminator has come to rescue a young John Connor, as he is chocking on tear gas. John tells the Terminator to just leave him. He has given up. He hasn’t accepted what his mother had told him his whole life, that he is “the one,” the leader of the resistance who will save them all from the robot army. The terminator, registering his state of despair, grabs John by the neck, and lifts him off the ground:
John Connor: Just leave me here. I’m not the one you want. You’re wasting your time.
Terminator: Incorrect. John Connor leads the resistance to victory.
John Connor: How? Why? Why me?
Terminator: You are John Connor.
John Connor: Christ! My mom fed me that bullshit since the cradle! Look at me! I’m no leader! I never was! I’m never gonna…
John Connor: [is choked by Terminator]
John Connor: Let go!
Terminator: You’re right. You’re not the one I want. I’m wasting my time.
John Connor: Fuck you, you fucking machine!
Terminator: [releases John] Better.
John Connor: What, you were just dicking with me? …
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